W.B. Horse~

 

  Thanks for the advice....My heart is not hardened, just protected.  I hope to someday have a heart full of love

for a special man.

Sheri, previous post came out wrong.  I wanted to say "don't let your heart become hardened.”

Sheri, don't get harden your heart.  Why don't you and Wolfpaws keep the dialogue open?

Wolfpaws~

 Thank you for replying to Happygirls comments.  My ex- B/F used "I Love You" to do exactly what you described and to keep me hooked. I met him 3 months after he was divorced...(17 yr marriage).  I was used as his guinea pig to find out how to do the dating thing.  16 months in and it's over as of July 6th.  I so appreciate your comments that their are men out there that cherish the relationship and cheating does not make any love stronger.  My fault is that I'm overly compassionate to other peoples pain.  That also gets me into trouble...however, that will change because it's not working for me.  I will strive to be compassionate when necessary...not when its trying to keep a relationship alive!  I am on a healing path and I know the right one is out there...it's just not my time yet.  With your "healthy mindset" I'm confident you will also find the perfect one for you!  Good Luck!

  In that case, I apologize, yes.  I'm about to turn 40: Nov. 2008.  Since I was first able to grasp the "concept" of being in love when I was a kid..between then and last year, I was only with one woman in a serious romantic relationship.  I ended that relationship about 2 years ago.  Her job and "activities" were more important.  I was stupid to have waited that long for someone.  Hard to tell someone you love them when they're rarely around.

 

  So, basically, from age 11 to present, 95 percent of what I see are men and women who have no idea of what a solid relationship is.  Many STILL think they can just say "I love you" and things will be fine for a while, then they gripe when you're not fawning over them when it's conveinient for THEM.  I ended the relationship with my ex-g/f because I FINALLY came to my senses and knew I couldn't (and WOULDN'T) wait 8 more years.  I think waiting 8 years is MORE than generous.

 

  I never cheated on her, because I don't believe in "revenge" or "getting Even" when things get rough.  I grew tired of watching her neglect her health and well-being.  Every time I went to visit, her family's home was a mess.  The conditions for thier 2 dogs and, at one point, seven cats, were appalling.  I just kept getting excuses, and gave up "helping" out, as it came to no effect anyway.

 

   Go ahead, call me cruel for wanting my ex to keep herself healthy.  Call me whatever you want, but don't call me uncaring for the welfare of another human being.  I LOVED her.  Love only goes so far, and it can only heal so many wounds.  You can love someone til it makes you insane, but, still be alone.  Perhaps that's why some cheat.  There's NO excuse for cheating, EVER. 

 

   I was with her for 8 years. Much of that time, I was unable to see her because she was so BUSY with all of her "activities".  BUt, yet, like an IDIOT, i stayed "on board", because I loved her.  Truth is, is that I was miserable.  With perhaps the exception of my lovely "foot in mouth" initial posting, I AM a people person.  I cannot STAND being alone.  I don't like to see others lonely.

 

     This quality about me has gotten me in such trouble most of my life.  I know what it's like to be a doormat.  I know what it's like to be used: the first five women I was with all used me, then "tossed me aside".  I've never felt the urge to use a woman, nor will I ever. I CAN state this with absolute certainty because I know who I am inside.  I know my limits now.

 

      I need no pity, no sympathy.  Those will never appease me, nor make me feel any more human than stepping in dog crap.  I have no sympathy nor pity for any of you who cheat on your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband or wife.  You don't deserve ANYONE if you can't make up your own damned mind as to who the heck you want to love.  Until you ARE able to GROW UP, stay single.  Let the guys who see women as human beings love and cherish them,  because, it's obvious you won't be around to do that.